How to Survive Your Parents Over the Break

Posted: December 22, 2011 in Mental Health

Parents help create the person you have become today. Many of your core beliefs come from your parents, and most of us can show nothing but gratitude for everything that they do. However, now that we are beginning to form “who we are”, what we enjoy, and the direction we want to go in with our lives it can occasionally cause some tension with our parents.

  • Do you want to do something that maybe your parents don’t approve of?
  • Is your major picked by you or your parents? Really though? You REALLY want to go to law school? REALLY want to go to med school?
  • Are you trying to become independent, but your parents still want to direct you?

There are many things that can be happening in your life right now that can cause tension with you &  your parents. This is perfectly normal, and I would think it’s strange (but cool!) if you don’t have ANY issues at all. It’s not that they are “wrong” & we are “right” OR vice versa. It’s just that many times, now that you are in college, you might begin to see things differently, begin to form a different value system or simply crave the freedom to figure it out yourself.


Things can get especially “heated” when you are gone to college for (particular your first) semester and come home for break for the first time. Last time your parents interacted with you, you were fresh out of high school. And though now you may feel older and wiser, the discrepancy between where you left off and now can be a glaring issue staring you both in the face upon homecoming.


SO here are a couple tips to help smooth things over during this winter vacation when you are at home.

Me & my mom last Christmas 🙂 

  1. Don’t take things personally (a lot easier said, than done I know). The ONLY person that can make you upset is YOU. Try to relax when a parent may start to push your buttons. If you do not allow yourself to get angry then how can you be angry, right?
  2. Tell them you DO appreciate them. Sometimes parents just get worried that you don’t need them anymore. Constantly tell them you love them, and appreciate all they do. It is an easy way to gather support (which is what you really want anyway, right?) while at the same time showing gratitude.
  3. Spend time with them. Your parents miss you when you are off to school, so take a day or two to spend JUST with them sometime over this break.
  4. Share stuff with them. Let them know what you have been up to, what you have learned, etc. Your parents just want to be “in the loop” and a part of your life still, so let them! What’s the big deal? The more you share, the more they can begin to trust you.


I hope this stuff helps! Problems with your parents? Or anybody else you are going home to? Tell me about it at

  1. Very true! “mental health” is great for this post! Eating healthy and working out aren’t the only things that encompass your health!

  2. College Body says:

    I couldn’t agree more 🙂

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